Originally, I didn’t know if this would be appropriate to post on here. But I wanted to briefly talk about it because I was shocked at how much this situation impacted me, and as someone who wants to pursue a career in social/mental health services, I feel as if I have an obligation to talk about it.
Many of you probably already know that at one point in my life, I was obsessed with kpop. While many girls my age were crazy over the Jonas Brothers and whoever else was culturally relevant in 2009, my friends and I were busy fangirling over kpop bands. SHINee was one of the bands that fuelled my obsession. Even though I mostly stopped listening to kpop near the end of high school, the news of Jonghyun’s death had my friends and I (as well as the rest of the world) feeling completely shocked and heartbroken. As more details came out about his death, it made me feel frustrated and angry about the situations surrounding his death, but also deeply sad for the struggles that Jonghyun must have gone through.
It saddens me that depression and mental health still isn’t something that people take seriously. I’m not trying to downplay that though, I realize we are making strides towards ending that stigma, but I personally feel as if we still have a long way to go. Jonghyun had opened up to his doctor about depression and the doctor just told him it was a voice in his head that would go away. No!! Of course, I definitely don’t know Jonghyun personally, but I feel as angry as I would if someone I loved had received the same treatment. It angers me that someone would even think it’s okay to tell someone else that, when they came to you in confidence and trust! It is very sad that Jonghyun’s death was needed as a sort of wake up call to the nation that a person’s mental health is so important and central to everything else in their life.
I am not a trained professional by any means, but it doesn’t take someone with a doctorate degree to reach out to someone who is in trouble. Look for warning signs in your loved ones. Don’t just let them know you are there for them. Actively check up on them if you are concerned with their words or actions. Help them get help. And don’t wait to let the people in your life know how important they are to you. Tell them now. Tell people you love and care for them and that they make a difference in your life, because life is too short to be full of pride.
I just wanted to share something I learned in one of my classes this semester. It is called Mental Health First Aid, and I feel like they are just basic steps that anyone can use to help them approach someone they are concerned about, or the first steps that can help someone who has asked you for help. The steps are remembered by the acronym ALGEE, but they don’t have to be performed in that order.
Assess the risk
Give reassurance and information
Encourage the person to get appropriate professional help
Encourage self-help strategies
Please know that you are important and that you matter. The world would not be what it is today if it was not for you. Rest in peace Kim Jonghyun. Thank you for giving me years of happiness, even when you were suffering. You did well.
First and foremost, I know I say this a lot, but I have been busy. At the beginning of the summer, I remember thinking to myself that four months of summer seemed like it would drag on. But I was very wrong. Every month thus far has been filled with so many activities and events and things to do, that I have been spending so much time out in the world and less time at home. Although my blog has had to take a backseat, I have really been loving it! I wanted to come on here and just write, and update you all on some things that I’ve been doing and stuff that has been going on in my life. I think this will also serve as a way for me to look back and appreciate the inevitable and necessary changes that have been going on!
I have been thinking a lot (as I do) this past week. The main question I kept asking myself was “What do you want?” I feel as if I’m in this stage of being stuck in a cycle of back and forth. I will have moments where I feel so inspired and have a rush of motivation to just go out and do stuff, and then there’s moments where I’ll just be sitting doing pretty much nothing, failing to recognize that it doesn’t get me anywhere.
I didn’t really have a post planned for today, but I kind of just wanted to sit and write about some things that have been on my mind lately. I mean this is called alittlebrittofeverything, and it wouldn’t be alittlebrittofeverything, if I constantly write about everything and never keep you updated on the Britt part.
WOW! My blog is already a year old! Can you believe it? I can’t. When I think back to a year ago, I honestly never would have thought ALBOE would be where it is today. I’m not saying that I’m huge and successful by any means, but I never would have imagined that I would be getting constant positive feedback from a lot of people, that I would have people who always keep up to date with my posts and that I would be able to write posts on behalf of other brands!
When I first started this blog, I really only told a handful of people who I felt the closest to. I posted the link to my blog on my Twitter and Instagram, but I went through phases where I would take it down, then put it up again, then take it down, then put it up again… I think the reason why I was so indecisive about putting my blog out there was because of fear. I was scared that people might think it’s stupid or that people would talk about it without me knowing, thinking that it’s weird, people would be annoyed at my self promo blah blah blah… I pretty much spiralled into the never ending cycle of negative “what ifs”. It was also a challenge because it seemed to me that these days, people are more into watching videos on YouTube than reading reviews on a blog.
My skin is something that I have always been pretty self-conscious about. It isn’t terrible, but I think that the years of bad, painful breakouts when I was younger have scarred me into covering it up behind makeup (Don’t get this confused though! I wear makeup because I like it, not because I am insecure about my skin. They just happened to compliment each other!)
As far as my face goes, most of the time I wear foundation, and if I’m not wearing foundation I usually have on a bit of concealer for my dark circles and little spots. This week I really wanted to challenge myself to go foundation free. I’ve been trying to inch out of my comfort zone little by little, and the thought of being in public places without foundation intimidated me.